Sometimes it's easier to live in denial. That's basically been my life lately. Really, I prefer not to even think about the reality of my situation. In fact, have you ever seen the signs that say, "Teenagers, go get a job, get married, buy a house, a car, and have kids now, while you still know everything!" I sometimes feel like I took that advice. Up until recently, I didn't realize how far off I really am from being totally on top if it all.
Living in another world outside of what's real can really take it's tole on a person. It has for me. When we moved in with my parents last summer, I moved home. There was a big significance to that in my life at the time, because after feeling constantly judged and held to an unrealistic standard [being in ministry] I felt like I had lost almost all of myself. Over the last year I have definitely reconnected with the little girl that left this house 6 years ago to go play house. Some of the old me is good. Most of it is dysfunctional. Getting back to square one was an important step, nonetheless.
It's in the acceptance of where I am, where I come from and what I honestly want for my future that I find peace. After a long season of just feeling knocked down, out of breath and out of strength to fight, something occurred to me. At the end of June, I went to Colorado Springs with my sister-in-law and my mother-in-law and attended a Beth Moore Live event. During the worship time I looked around the stadium and saw women all around praising God with smiles on their faces. It was then I realized: Being a Christian is a happy thing!
It's not all about weeping at the feet of Christ. It's also dancing before Him. It's laughter. It's friendship. It's celebrating because He is alive! He is alive in us.
Choosing to accept my weaknesses, my failures, my mistakes and embracing grace with both hands is my happy place. I don't have to keep trying to be perfect. I don't even have to appear perfect to the people behind me at Church.
So chin up friends. Church is not about keeping up with the much more "spiritual" Jones's. Jesus is about living a better life, so others will see that and desire the same for themselves.
From one big happy mess to another-
Lindsay
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
Thursday, July 19, 2012
Perspectives
At the moment I've got the TV on for the sake of drowning out the little one crying. He has a hard time being comforted by anyone but me, so we're trying to help him adjust. I feel like barging in and saving the day. It breaks my heart to hear him cry when I know I could stop it, but it's ok. He's ok. He's healthy, safe and loved.
Has anyone heard the story of Jaycee Duggard?
Kidnapped, held against her will for over 18 years, mistreated, used, abused. She gave birth to 2 children (as a result of the abuse) in a backyard. The first at age 14. Breastfed for a period of 6 years total. All the while her abuser was on parole. REALLY!? This story made my stomach turn, my heart ache and my blood boil. But after watching the way she conducted herself during a recent interview, her reflections on what she went threw, I was astonished at her poise. She was completely positive about her future, the love she has for her kids, and actually comforted her mother about regrets she had from that day.
We tend to stress about the little glitches in our day. The little things. I know I, as a SAHM, tend to get into a rut sometimes because I feel lonely or stuck in the same day-to-day thing. But when I think of this story, all I can think is, "if she can have joy and purpose after all that, I have no excuse to complain."
When we put into perspective that HEY! Our kids have food, clothes, a warm bed and people that love them, we can be thankful and joyful even in what feels like chaos. We have all we need and more. I know it's a topic we all talk about from time to time, but I just really felt the need to say it again. Life is good! Let the little things go. And for goodness sake! tell the people you love how much you love them!
Our families are usually the first people we snap at when we're feeling short tempered, but let's try and remember that these are the ones that know us best and need us the most. Show them you love them. My family makes me pretty crazy. Lately every time I feel my mind going into grumble mode, I tell myself, "do unto others...." It keeps me from feeling annoyed by every little thing. Maybe that's because it reminds me of my own humanity. Maybe it's because I realize I want to treat them better. I know God gave us this commandment because he knew it would benefit everyone involved.
As I would have them do to me-
Lindsay
P.S. Allen got Asher to sleep (Daddy FTW!!)
Has anyone heard the story of Jaycee Duggard?
Kidnapped, held against her will for over 18 years, mistreated, used, abused. She gave birth to 2 children (as a result of the abuse) in a backyard. The first at age 14. Breastfed for a period of 6 years total. All the while her abuser was on parole. REALLY!? This story made my stomach turn, my heart ache and my blood boil. But after watching the way she conducted herself during a recent interview, her reflections on what she went threw, I was astonished at her poise. She was completely positive about her future, the love she has for her kids, and actually comforted her mother about regrets she had from that day.
We tend to stress about the little glitches in our day. The little things. I know I, as a SAHM, tend to get into a rut sometimes because I feel lonely or stuck in the same day-to-day thing. But when I think of this story, all I can think is, "if she can have joy and purpose after all that, I have no excuse to complain."
When we put into perspective that HEY! Our kids have food, clothes, a warm bed and people that love them, we can be thankful and joyful even in what feels like chaos. We have all we need and more. I know it's a topic we all talk about from time to time, but I just really felt the need to say it again. Life is good! Let the little things go. And for goodness sake! tell the people you love how much you love them!
Our families are usually the first people we snap at when we're feeling short tempered, but let's try and remember that these are the ones that know us best and need us the most. Show them you love them. My family makes me pretty crazy. Lately every time I feel my mind going into grumble mode, I tell myself, "do unto others...." It keeps me from feeling annoyed by every little thing. Maybe that's because it reminds me of my own humanity. Maybe it's because I realize I want to treat them better. I know God gave us this commandment because he knew it would benefit everyone involved.
As I would have them do to me-
Lindsay
P.S. Allen got Asher to sleep (Daddy FTW!!)
Thursday, June 7, 2012
Twenty-Four
It's a strange thing to grow up. One day I'm graduating High School, then, 7 years and 2 kids later I realize I'm not a teenager anymore.
It's quite a relief if you ask me. Most people ask you on your birthday, "how does it feel?" and this year I actually had an answer.
"It feels great!"
I feel like I am finally comfortable in my own skin. No more awkwardness. No more comparing myself to others or feeling inadequate in some way. I don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone. I don't feel like I have to always say the right thing to spare someone's feelings. I'm not setting out to be hurtful, but I am comfortable with the truth.
Some might think "why did you get married before you knew who you wanted to be, or felt like yourself?" and my answer to that would be that I would never have found myself without my Husband. He is as much a part of me as anything else in the world. I am so thankful I found him.
As I feel a season of change is upon us all, I am filled with excitement and caution. Excitement because God always has a way of blowing my mind! Caution to not jump head first into anything without first consulting the part of me that knows what's right.
I'm ok knowing I'm not done making mistakes, but I know now I can handle them. I am what I was always meant to be. A wife. A mother. A woman. I can't wait to see what else goes on that list.
So in love with life.
Lindsay
It's quite a relief if you ask me. Most people ask you on your birthday, "how does it feel?" and this year I actually had an answer.
"It feels great!"
I feel like I am finally comfortable in my own skin. No more awkwardness. No more comparing myself to others or feeling inadequate in some way. I don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone. I don't feel like I have to always say the right thing to spare someone's feelings. I'm not setting out to be hurtful, but I am comfortable with the truth.
Some might think "why did you get married before you knew who you wanted to be, or felt like yourself?" and my answer to that would be that I would never have found myself without my Husband. He is as much a part of me as anything else in the world. I am so thankful I found him.
As I feel a season of change is upon us all, I am filled with excitement and caution. Excitement because God always has a way of blowing my mind! Caution to not jump head first into anything without first consulting the part of me that knows what's right.
I'm ok knowing I'm not done making mistakes, but I know now I can handle them. I am what I was always meant to be. A wife. A mother. A woman. I can't wait to see what else goes on that list.
So in love with life.
Lindsay
Friday, June 1, 2012
Mid-Year Resolution
Anybody cringe at that title?
Today is June 1st!! It's always been easy for me to break my year into 2 parts: First half birthday, second half Christmas. (My primary love language is GIFTS if that explains anything.) So when my birthday comes around, it's always a good time for me to think about the year ahead. Where do I stand on the things I set out to accomplish on that first midnight in January?
What about my health? Everyone puts their health on their wish list for the coming year. Have the holiday weekends and birthday/ graduation parties thrown you for a loop? Yes.
All is not lost, though. We have time to catch it, to readjust. To make an actual effort. Think of this as your mid-term grade for the year.
Because it's time for a change. Everywhere I look, I see change happening. People's lives are changing, people's outlooks are changing and just the overall feeling day-to-day is changing. So let's all hop on board.
If you're the one with all the changes happening to you, embrace it! I mean, really, what choice is there?
And if you're thinking that not much has changed in your life lately, well.. maybe you need a change in perspective. Mine lately has been love. Thinking about other people and what they're going through and trying to love them despite their choices. Lord knows I'm glad He does that for me.
Let's all make a point to actually meet our goals. Not lose sight. Run the race and feel what it is to succeed at something personal.
Because next January, I'd like to start a new journey.
Lindsay
Today is June 1st!! It's always been easy for me to break my year into 2 parts: First half birthday, second half Christmas. (My primary love language is GIFTS if that explains anything.) So when my birthday comes around, it's always a good time for me to think about the year ahead. Where do I stand on the things I set out to accomplish on that first midnight in January?
What about my health? Everyone puts their health on their wish list for the coming year. Have the holiday weekends and birthday/ graduation parties thrown you for a loop? Yes.
All is not lost, though. We have time to catch it, to readjust. To make an actual effort. Think of this as your mid-term grade for the year.
Because it's time for a change. Everywhere I look, I see change happening. People's lives are changing, people's outlooks are changing and just the overall feeling day-to-day is changing. So let's all hop on board.
If you're the one with all the changes happening to you, embrace it! I mean, really, what choice is there?
And if you're thinking that not much has changed in your life lately, well.. maybe you need a change in perspective. Mine lately has been love. Thinking about other people and what they're going through and trying to love them despite their choices. Lord knows I'm glad He does that for me.
Let's all make a point to actually meet our goals. Not lose sight. Run the race and feel what it is to succeed at something personal.
Because next January, I'd like to start a new journey.
Lindsay
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
If I have not love
I think about the person that I am and I usually think I'm not an overly confident woman. I have insecurities. The little things throw me. I take things too personally. But sometimes I don't come off that way. I hide behind a lot of talk and it's easy to take me the wrong way- meaning: sometimes I come off as thinking too highly of myself or being just a little bit better than you.
That's a problem.
If what I am meant to do (which we all are) is share Jesus with the world, I need to be evidently loving. So that's my latest hill. Love more. Especially here in my little blog. I want you all to know that this is a no judgement zone. If I were to list my failures and mistakes and shortcomings.. well.. this list would be long and shameful.
I get it. Life happens. We sometimes jump into things heart first and then think about it later. Or, if you're anything like me, you decide that rules and logic don't apply to you and expect to be the exception. I'm not about perfection, because if that were possible God wouldn't have made the straight a narrow with lots of grace along the path. I'm about growth. I'm about relationship.
Just as I was pondering the fact that maybe I come off a little harsh sometimes, the passage I know all too well popped into my life-
That's a problem.
If what I am meant to do (which we all are) is share Jesus with the world, I need to be evidently loving. So that's my latest hill. Love more. Especially here in my little blog. I want you all to know that this is a no judgement zone. If I were to list my failures and mistakes and shortcomings.. well.. this list would be long and shameful.
I get it. Life happens. We sometimes jump into things heart first and then think about it later. Or, if you're anything like me, you decide that rules and logic don't apply to you and expect to be the exception. I'm not about perfection, because if that were possible God wouldn't have made the straight a narrow with lots of grace along the path. I'm about growth. I'm about relationship.
Just as I was pondering the fact that maybe I come off a little harsh sometimes, the passage I know all too well popped into my life-
If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.
I Corinthians 13:1-3
That hit it right on the nail for me. Love. Love. LOVE!
Slipping off my soapbox (headfirst) now-
Lindsay
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
The In Between
From the time Allen leaves the house to the time he gets home, I run the show around here. Every diaper, every meal, every tear, every correction- they're my responsibility.
I love that I get to be at home with my boys. It's what makes sense for us, and I feel really blessed to do it. But sometimes I do feel a little less than appreciated. Like when my family comes home and says "this house looks the same as it did when I left." Not realizing that I had to work on keeping it that way. They didn't see the pile of toys Ira dumped out that I helped him clean up, or the crumbs he left all over the table that I had to wipe off. The loads of laundry that have been washed, dried, folded and put away. They sometimes don't see what goes on in between.
It's not a complaint. I understand that nobody can read minds or know what happened when they weren't there. My point today is what we mamas do in that time. Do we shrug it off and think "he'll never know the difference," or take our sweet time getting around to things because no body's watching? Or do we rise to the occasion to excel in our daily lives, knowing that it's important work and God can still develop our character at home, doing housework and caring for children?
The in between is important. Listen to what God said to Samuel in his search for Saul's replacement, "...Man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart." I Samuel 16:7b
1 Samuel 16:7
These are the teaching moments God has set in place for us. I know He's got big plans for every one of us here- reaching the World for Christ is no easy feat. So let's make it count. Even if we don't get the recognition, God sees it all. The servant hood, the perseverance, the giving of yourself joyfully. It all counts for something. When we change the way we look at it, and forgive our families for their humanity, we will start having better days and truly enjoying what we do.
Because today is what separates my past from my future-
Lindsay
I love that I get to be at home with my boys. It's what makes sense for us, and I feel really blessed to do it. But sometimes I do feel a little less than appreciated. Like when my family comes home and says "this house looks the same as it did when I left." Not realizing that I had to work on keeping it that way. They didn't see the pile of toys Ira dumped out that I helped him clean up, or the crumbs he left all over the table that I had to wipe off. The loads of laundry that have been washed, dried, folded and put away. They sometimes don't see what goes on in between.
It's not a complaint. I understand that nobody can read minds or know what happened when they weren't there. My point today is what we mamas do in that time. Do we shrug it off and think "he'll never know the difference," or take our sweet time getting around to things because no body's watching? Or do we rise to the occasion to excel in our daily lives, knowing that it's important work and God can still develop our character at home, doing housework and caring for children?
The in between is important. Listen to what God said to Samuel in his search for Saul's replacement, "...Man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart." I Samuel 16:7b
1 Samuel 16:7
These are the teaching moments God has set in place for us. I know He's got big plans for every one of us here- reaching the World for Christ is no easy feat. So let's make it count. Even if we don't get the recognition, God sees it all. The servant hood, the perseverance, the giving of yourself joyfully. It all counts for something. When we change the way we look at it, and forgive our families for their humanity, we will start having better days and truly enjoying what we do.
Because today is what separates my past from my future-
Lindsay
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
5 Ways to Cut Calories
I have really been working on my health. My biggest vice is sugar. Recognizing that, I'm trying to work a lot of it our of my daily diet. Here are a few things I have applied (at least most of the time) to help keep my calorie intake within a reasonable range.
1. Sit at the Table. Have I already gone on about this? Probably. The point is, eating while standing around, walking through the kitchen or watching TV means your not seeing how much you're actually eating. It also convinces you to eat more things like chips and cookies because they're easy and give you a quick fix. Bad plan. Those carbs leave you longing for more. Couple that with inactivity and you can say goodbye to your skinny jeans.
2. Drink more water. When we go out to eat, I usually get a soda. And then the server refills it twice while I'm not paying attention and 500 calories later... my day is sabotaged. Replace it with water with lemon. Easy and cheap!
3. Toughen up your drinks. Instead of a Venti Caramel Frappuccino, go for and Iced coffee with skim milk. I'm still working toward eliminating the sweeteners all together. Alcohol is another place you can spare the sugars, beer and mixed drinks are usually loaded with calories. Check out calorie king to see how many calories are in your drink (or anything else for that matter.)
4. No More Seconds. If you're really not full, ok, get some more. If you don't you'll be feeling snacky all day. But when you've eaten a good portion, stop. your body will never learn to feel satisfied on less unless you cut your portions down even when it's hard.
5. Exercise. Stop making excuses. I'm at home all day with 2 little guys and I have come to accept that getting out for a walk or a run everyday just isn't going to happen. So I play Hide-and-go-Tag with Ira. (It's our own game, the rules are still a little fuzzy..) It get's me moving. I also try to get some yoga or a workout in at home when the boys are calm. I love this site for yoga videos! She posts new ones every week.
So that's that. Hopefully we can all make some adjustments and soon be a little healthier!
Losing it-
Lindsay
1. Sit at the Table. Have I already gone on about this? Probably. The point is, eating while standing around, walking through the kitchen or watching TV means your not seeing how much you're actually eating. It also convinces you to eat more things like chips and cookies because they're easy and give you a quick fix. Bad plan. Those carbs leave you longing for more. Couple that with inactivity and you can say goodbye to your skinny jeans.
2. Drink more water. When we go out to eat, I usually get a soda. And then the server refills it twice while I'm not paying attention and 500 calories later... my day is sabotaged. Replace it with water with lemon. Easy and cheap!
3. Toughen up your drinks. Instead of a Venti Caramel Frappuccino, go for and Iced coffee with skim milk. I'm still working toward eliminating the sweeteners all together. Alcohol is another place you can spare the sugars, beer and mixed drinks are usually loaded with calories. Check out calorie king to see how many calories are in your drink (or anything else for that matter.)
4. No More Seconds. If you're really not full, ok, get some more. If you don't you'll be feeling snacky all day. But when you've eaten a good portion, stop. your body will never learn to feel satisfied on less unless you cut your portions down even when it's hard.
5. Exercise. Stop making excuses. I'm at home all day with 2 little guys and I have come to accept that getting out for a walk or a run everyday just isn't going to happen. So I play Hide-and-go-Tag with Ira. (It's our own game, the rules are still a little fuzzy..) It get's me moving. I also try to get some yoga or a workout in at home when the boys are calm. I love this site for yoga videos! She posts new ones every week.
So that's that. Hopefully we can all make some adjustments and soon be a little healthier!
Losing it-
Lindsay
Sunday, May 6, 2012
No Big Deal
Today was such a different day for me at church.
The music began and I started clapping my hands and singing, believing every word
"there may be pain in the night, but joy comes in the morning..."
I almost felt like I was missing something, though. There wasn't a problem in my mind that I was relating this to. I finally felt a selfless type of worship that I have not felt for a LONG time.
Does it mean my life is perfect? Nope.
There are a lot of things that I could easily be upset about right now. I could be hanging on every word from God hoping He'll come through again. But I'm a little tired of that kind of relationship. A take-take relationship.
The music began and I started clapping my hands and singing, believing every word
"there may be pain in the night, but joy comes in the morning..."
I almost felt like I was missing something, though. There wasn't a problem in my mind that I was relating this to. I finally felt a selfless type of worship that I have not felt for a LONG time.
Does it mean my life is perfect? Nope.
There are a lot of things that I could easily be upset about right now. I could be hanging on every word from God hoping He'll come through again. But I'm a little tired of that kind of relationship. A take-take relationship.
Cast your cares on the LORD
and He will sustain you;
He will never let the righteous be shaken.- Psalm 55:22
What has all the worrying, the trying to fix things myself, the nagging, the blaming, the confusion brought me? Nothing. Well maybe something over time. Stress, perhaps?
So I've decided to stop freaking out. God will open doors for changes when He sees fit.
So I've decided to stop freaking out. God will open doors for changes when He sees fit.
Changes in my circumstances, changes in the people around me and changes in myself. But it's insulting to God, for me to think that the Orchestrator of Life has everything all wrong.
Another load of laundry. Someone made another mess. Something just broke. I'm tired. I'm frustrated. Oh well! My attitude determines whether or not I have a good day. Not the things I have no control over.
Even though things aren't perfect, I still sang out today with joy because I realized something.
Even if everything in my life were perfect, I would still want God just as much. I need Him to have joy and peace and love. And even if He never gave me anything else in life, what I have is still worth praising Him for.
My suggestion to you, friends, is to learn from someone else on this one. Because I'm the first to say I don't always take someone else's word for it. But I wish I would have learned to sooner. Choose not to blow things way out of proportion. Cast your cares.
He might shake things up, but you'll never be shaken-
Lindsay
My suggestion to you, friends, is to learn from someone else on this one. Because I'm the first to say I don't always take someone else's word for it. But I wish I would have learned to sooner. Choose not to blow things way out of proportion. Cast your cares.
He might shake things up, but you'll never be shaken-
Lindsay
Friday, May 4, 2012
5 Things to Make Your Life Easier!
I'm all about making things from scratch. For one, it usually comes out cheaper. It also makes me feel like I can handle just as much as women from the past that didn't have the conveniences we do. But.. HELLO! It's not like I'm willing to go hand wash my clothes in a bucket or draw water from a well. It's ok to enjoy things that we have that they didn't. They would have. Not to mention that we have a lot going on in our world.
We have created for ourselves busy lifestyles. Bigger houses means more cleaning. All the smart phones and ipads and ways to be everywhere at once means being everywhere at once. We've got our own challenges. So here's what I'm proposing:
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK!
Here are some things we keep in our kitchen, and I use them happily. Guilt free.
1. Bisquik- I was all out this morning and decided to make biscuits from scratch.. I missed my bisquik. It's just so simple.
2. Par-Boiled rice. I hate cooking rice. I never get it right. Too hard, too soft.. It drives me nuts! Par boiled rice seems to be that perfect balance between minute rice and raw.
3. Pressure cooker! Oh how I love my pressure cooker. I will now sing the praises of it:
CHEH CHEH CHEH, CHEH CHEH CHEH, CHECH CHECH CHEH CHEH... (that was to the tune of Shake Your Booty..) No, but really. I can cook a pot of beans in about an hour as opposed to the all day venture using a crock pot. If you don't have one, buy one. Just respect the pressure cooker. Don't be afraid.. just respect.
4. Salad Mix. Ok I love the Caesar salad mix from walmart. It's so easy to just open the package, toss around the lettuce with the Parmesan cheese and dressing and then top it with the croutons. No hassle. It's the perfect impromptu side dish.
5. Food processor. When I was killing myself trying to dice little grape tomatoes I had this "Aha" moment. Just use the chopper! plug it in, chop, rinse. Done. I can totally avoid: my fingers having a near-death experience, my eyes tearing from onions, and the hot chile stuff seeping into my skin (and then my eyes.)
So there you have it.
Go forth and Chill Out-
Lindsay
We have created for ourselves busy lifestyles. Bigger houses means more cleaning. All the smart phones and ipads and ways to be everywhere at once means being everywhere at once. We've got our own challenges. So here's what I'm proposing:
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK!
Here are some things we keep in our kitchen, and I use them happily. Guilt free.
1. Bisquik- I was all out this morning and decided to make biscuits from scratch.. I missed my bisquik. It's just so simple.
2. Par-Boiled rice. I hate cooking rice. I never get it right. Too hard, too soft.. It drives me nuts! Par boiled rice seems to be that perfect balance between minute rice and raw.
3. Pressure cooker! Oh how I love my pressure cooker. I will now sing the praises of it:
CHEH CHEH CHEH, CHEH CHEH CHEH, CHECH CHECH CHEH CHEH... (that was to the tune of Shake Your Booty..) No, but really. I can cook a pot of beans in about an hour as opposed to the all day venture using a crock pot. If you don't have one, buy one. Just respect the pressure cooker. Don't be afraid.. just respect.
4. Salad Mix. Ok I love the Caesar salad mix from walmart. It's so easy to just open the package, toss around the lettuce with the Parmesan cheese and dressing and then top it with the croutons. No hassle. It's the perfect impromptu side dish.
5. Food processor. When I was killing myself trying to dice little grape tomatoes I had this "Aha" moment. Just use the chopper! plug it in, chop, rinse. Done. I can totally avoid: my fingers having a near-death experience, my eyes tearing from onions, and the hot chile stuff seeping into my skin (and then my eyes.)
So there you have it.
Go forth and Chill Out-
Lindsay
Monday, April 23, 2012
The Comfort of Obsession
As I sat on the floor next to Ira's toddler bed, waiting for him to drop off, I prayed for him and for my home like I do almost every night-
"Lord, protect our home. Do not let fear rule in this place. Bring peace and rest.." and I felt Him respond, "trust me."
The message I was getting loud and clear was that I can pray these things over and over as a sort of ritual or I can believe that He heard me the first time. He is faithful, after all. I know He doesn't desire harm to come to me or my family. So why am I still stuck on these thoughts?
Fear. I'm giving it too much room to creep in. Fear and Faith are opposite, so I can't really operate under both mindsets. At some point I have to give in to one of them totally.
But, perhaps, there's a reason I resort to these same concerns in my prayer time. Maybe the fact that I'm praying for my family's protection brings much happier feelings than those that might be associated with my growth.
In trusting God and moving on from the same repetitive prayers every night, I will inevitably be forced to focus on other issues in my life. Matters of the heart. Places that need some deep cleaning. I cannot avoid the growing pains any longer. It's time to move on here.
I wonder how many of us stay stuck in one spot of our lives? We find out that we have a particular weakness for something, and then spend all of our time trying to work through it. "Trust me," He said. Stop obsessing over that one little thing and trust that He's working on it. All things have their season of harvest. Maybe the push you need in that area will come from focusing on others. Or starting with something simple, like being more positive.
Don't get stuck in the rut of feeling defeated over one area of your life.
Life is multi-faceted. Some spots may be a little cloudy, so reflect on things through something more clear. Basics like: Love, Joy, Hope, Charity, Empathy. Just as a diamond reflects light based on the clarity in the stone. The light doesn't stay trapped inside, it makes its way back out through whatever avenue it can.
It's the light that makes it shine-
Lindsay
"Lord, protect our home. Do not let fear rule in this place. Bring peace and rest.." and I felt Him respond, "trust me."
The message I was getting loud and clear was that I can pray these things over and over as a sort of ritual or I can believe that He heard me the first time. He is faithful, after all. I know He doesn't desire harm to come to me or my family. So why am I still stuck on these thoughts?
Fear. I'm giving it too much room to creep in. Fear and Faith are opposite, so I can't really operate under both mindsets. At some point I have to give in to one of them totally.
But, perhaps, there's a reason I resort to these same concerns in my prayer time. Maybe the fact that I'm praying for my family's protection brings much happier feelings than those that might be associated with my growth.
In trusting God and moving on from the same repetitive prayers every night, I will inevitably be forced to focus on other issues in my life. Matters of the heart. Places that need some deep cleaning. I cannot avoid the growing pains any longer. It's time to move on here.
I wonder how many of us stay stuck in one spot of our lives? We find out that we have a particular weakness for something, and then spend all of our time trying to work through it. "Trust me," He said. Stop obsessing over that one little thing and trust that He's working on it. All things have their season of harvest. Maybe the push you need in that area will come from focusing on others. Or starting with something simple, like being more positive.
Don't get stuck in the rut of feeling defeated over one area of your life.
Life is multi-faceted. Some spots may be a little cloudy, so reflect on things through something more clear. Basics like: Love, Joy, Hope, Charity, Empathy. Just as a diamond reflects light based on the clarity in the stone. The light doesn't stay trapped inside, it makes its way back out through whatever avenue it can.
It's the light that makes it shine-
Lindsay
Sunday, April 22, 2012
Daily Goals- printout
Hey friends! Lately I've been working on doing some of my posts via VIDEO! I'm really excited about it, but I'm also not very software savvy, so don't expect anything ground breaking.
In the mean time, I have been using these handy little daily goals printouts. They have really helped me stay focused throughout my day. I've seen a few circulating on Pinterest, but none really met the needs of my day (either too vague or WAY too detailed.) So I made my own.
Feel free to print them out, I suggest doing 10 copies totalling 30. You'll be set for a month.
As a side note, I don't use one EVERY day, but for days when I'm home and really need to get certain tasks done, it really REALLY helps me stay productive.
Go forth and conquer!
-Lindsay
P.S. this is my first time using google docs, so if you can't open it, please let me know so I can figure it out :)
In the mean time, I have been using these handy little daily goals printouts. They have really helped me stay focused throughout my day. I've seen a few circulating on Pinterest, but none really met the needs of my day (either too vague or WAY too detailed.) So I made my own.
Feel free to print them out, I suggest doing 10 copies totalling 30. You'll be set for a month.
As a side note, I don't use one EVERY day, but for days when I'm home and really need to get certain tasks done, it really REALLY helps me stay productive.
Go forth and conquer!
-Lindsay
P.S. this is my first time using google docs, so if you can't open it, please let me know so I can figure it out :)
Wednesday, April 18, 2012
My Letter to the Devil,
The things you do to get under my skin. I decided it's time to write you, rather than continuing to be passive-aggressive about the way I see things here.
First off, my kids are off limits. Don't even think about it. I will spend more time praying for and with them everyday. Every. Day. Jesus' blood covers our home, don't let the door hit you on your way out.
As for my husband. I see the things you are trying with him. The past hurts, the present failures. All I can say is this, if he wasn't a threat to you, you wouldn't be trying so hard to slow him down. I know he was created with a purpose, and he will do more with his life than you've been able to do with your misery.
I'm sure it enrages you to think about the fact that we have already won. It was spoken, you burn, we live. So you can back off. You can take this as an official statement: As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.
My writing, God will use it to change lives and deliver hope. Writing has been doing that for a while now (you may have noticed.) Despite your best efforts, you haven't been able to extinguish the power of the word made flesh, so I'm confident you will consistently fail at any other attempts to bring down the thing I do best.
As for our families, the patterns stop with us. The bad habits and the ability to completely ignore God's voice, I'm over it. I know when He speaks, and not to be proud here, but, I'm going to listen. The best part? When I fail, you no longer have the prerogative to bring feelings of guilt and shame, because I know I'm covered by Grace.
Fear- I know it's something you operate in, but it's also a lie. From anxiety and paranoia to chills-up-your-spine terror, I'm over it. In releasing control and trusting God fully, I know that fear and worry will do me no good.
I will spend the rest of my life helping people escape your snares, in hopes of them living their lives joyfully and spending eternity with their Creator. And the lines you keep blurring between religion and relationship? Guess what? I'm making it my personal goal to set things straight, through the Spirit within me showing me all the flaws in your doctrine of confusion.
So learn my name. Learn to run when you hear it, because the same one that defeated you at the cross lives in me.
Sincerely HIS (not yours)-
Lindsay
First off, my kids are off limits. Don't even think about it. I will spend more time praying for and with them everyday. Every. Day. Jesus' blood covers our home, don't let the door hit you on your way out.
As for my husband. I see the things you are trying with him. The past hurts, the present failures. All I can say is this, if he wasn't a threat to you, you wouldn't be trying so hard to slow him down. I know he was created with a purpose, and he will do more with his life than you've been able to do with your misery.
I'm sure it enrages you to think about the fact that we have already won. It was spoken, you burn, we live. So you can back off. You can take this as an official statement: As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.
My writing, God will use it to change lives and deliver hope. Writing has been doing that for a while now (you may have noticed.) Despite your best efforts, you haven't been able to extinguish the power of the word made flesh, so I'm confident you will consistently fail at any other attempts to bring down the thing I do best.
As for our families, the patterns stop with us. The bad habits and the ability to completely ignore God's voice, I'm over it. I know when He speaks, and not to be proud here, but, I'm going to listen. The best part? When I fail, you no longer have the prerogative to bring feelings of guilt and shame, because I know I'm covered by Grace.
Fear- I know it's something you operate in, but it's also a lie. From anxiety and paranoia to chills-up-your-spine terror, I'm over it. In releasing control and trusting God fully, I know that fear and worry will do me no good.
I will spend the rest of my life helping people escape your snares, in hopes of them living their lives joyfully and spending eternity with their Creator. And the lines you keep blurring between religion and relationship? Guess what? I'm making it my personal goal to set things straight, through the Spirit within me showing me all the flaws in your doctrine of confusion.
So learn my name. Learn to run when you hear it, because the same one that defeated you at the cross lives in me.
Sincerely HIS (not yours)-
Lindsay
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Our Biggest Responsibility
My heart breaks every single time I see or a hear yet another story of a child being mistreated, abused, neglected or even killed. We all say the same thing to ourselves. "Who could do such a thing?"
While watching Life Today on Wednesday, they were promoting a campaign to help rescue children from the Sex Trade Industry. Lord knows that if there was one thing I could put my heart and soul into, it would be this. Because I believe in purity and innocence being restored. Because I know the power God has to give people their dignity back. Because children have the right to be children.
And it hit me.
Have you ever seen a predator animal hunting a herd of their prey? The predator always hunts the most vulnerable, the small, the weak. That's how our enemy operates. He sees our children as a huge target, and I am not ok with that.
So I'm here, writing because I feel that we have a tremendous responsibility to preserve innocence. Yes, there are exterior things that we need to be cautious of. I don't want to let my kids see too much in the ways of violence and sex. I don't trust just anybody to care for my children. I am careful when I take them out not to let them get too far. But some of the things that damage kids long term happen at home.
The words spoken to them. The way we show how we feel about them.
Here are a few things that we can all change as parents to keep our homes a positive environment.
While watching Life Today on Wednesday, they were promoting a campaign to help rescue children from the Sex Trade Industry. Lord knows that if there was one thing I could put my heart and soul into, it would be this. Because I believe in purity and innocence being restored. Because I know the power God has to give people their dignity back. Because children have the right to be children.
And it hit me.
Have you ever seen a predator animal hunting a herd of their prey? The predator always hunts the most vulnerable, the small, the weak. That's how our enemy operates. He sees our children as a huge target, and I am not ok with that.
So I'm here, writing because I feel that we have a tremendous responsibility to preserve innocence. Yes, there are exterior things that we need to be cautious of. I don't want to let my kids see too much in the ways of violence and sex. I don't trust just anybody to care for my children. I am careful when I take them out not to let them get too far. But some of the things that damage kids long term happen at home.
The words spoken to them. The way we show how we feel about them.
Here are a few things that we can all change as parents to keep our homes a positive environment.
- Be positive. Instead of saying "don't..don't...don't!" Be specific. Example: Say "feet on the floor," instead of "don't stand on the table."
- Do not ever let your child believe that their actions change how you feel about them. This will teach them to become people pleasers instead of allowing them to be themselves and tell the truth. If you are getting frustrated, take a deep breath, tell them you love them and that you know they are good kids. If it's really driving you nuts, call for backup!
- Try to keep other relationships healthy at home. It's ok to have some disagreements, and it's ok for them to see a little of that, but if it's getting heated take it to another room or call a time out. After all, they do what we do, not what we say. If Mommy's disrespecting Daddy, why shouldn't they, too?
- Always, always, always talk up their abilities! "You're so smart!" "You're so Strong!" and for girls it's absolutely healthy to say "you're so beautiful!" I want my children to have confidence in life. Imagine the great things God can do with them if they already believe they can do a lot. I'm not suggesting we celebrate mediocrity, (don't just say something out of nowhere,) but do celebrate their gifts!
- Be real. When the time comes to talk about the big issues, don't be afraid to be honest about your past. Sex, alcohol, friends.. those things that might still feel like touchy issues to you. Talking about it candidly might be (or might not be) the thing that gives them perspective before making a wrong choice.
- Expect failure. We are human. We are never going to do EVERYTHING right. Neither are our kids. It's really important not to set a standard of perfection just because you know better. Your kids are not your big do-over. They are people who are going to need Salvation just as much as anyone. They have temptations and free will. If you really want to be there for them in those big mess-up moments, don't judge. You were there, remember? Be ready to talk through it, to pray through it and to remind them that life goes on, and forgiveness is there.
This generation means so much to God. And they are under attack for it. They will be the ones to reach the nations and prepare the way for the Coming of the LORD. We need to give them the best possible start so that they can literally change the world.
Monday, April 2, 2012
A Stay-At-Home-Mommy's Heart- Failures
I can remember thinking, "when I have kids, I'm not going to let them [insert bad habit here]"
HA!
When I worked in the daycare setting, nap time was a joke. I hated it. I could never get my class to just fall asleep. Now, with my two-year-old I'm facing the same challenges. I literally feel so frustrated sometimes because I just don't know what else I can possibly do.
I am also not used to being far from the house. So when we go out, I always feel unprepared. In my mind, I never wanted to tote a big diaper bag. So I put a few things in my purse and go. Well.. that's not always the best plan.
So the thought I had today is this: I need to be more teachable.
I cannot assume that just because I now I have children, I am going to instinctively do everything right.
So where do I go for guidance? Who knows, better than me, how to care for these precious little guys?
Their creator.
The Lord says, "I'll be strong where you are weak." He fills in the blanks, he gives us a broader perspective on how those little decisions affect things long-term, he gives us clarity in parenting with wisdom without trying to fit a certain mold.
I accept that I'm not perfect. I acknowledge that I need help, and not just advice from an article or someone who's done it a certain way. I need instruction from the designer of life, from my heavenly Father, who never made a single mistake or a selfish choice regarding my well being.
Lord open my mind and give me peace, patience and enthusiasm in the work that I do. I am so blessed beyond recognition to have the ability to raise my children at home, in a loving environment. Don't ever let me take it for granted. Teach me to instruct them according to the men you want them to be. Continually show me areas in need of improvement. And above all, guard their hearts through the process. Don't let foolish words change the way they see themselves and take our mistakes and use them for the good in their lives. Amen.
Clinging to Grace-
Lindsay
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 21
Can you believe it's been over 3 weeks that we started this?!!?!?
It has flown by for me. It's been a really exciting journey. I have felt God through it, and it couldn't have come at a better time in my life. Here are a few things I have learned:
1. Don't be lazy- It will set an overall tone of frustration and sluggishness for my home.
2. Be Selfless- Continue to put others first and God will give me the rest that I need from it all.
3. Keep Writing- (personal) The more I write, as with anything, the easier it becomes. I think there's been a significant improvement.
4. Trust God. Honestly He's been telling me this for a long time. Every time I feel frustrated or upset because it feels like we (as a family) are not moving forward, God reverts back to this. Obviously it's really hard for me or we wouldn't still be working on it.. but here we are.
5. Spend time with God everyday- I won't say that since we started, everything has been just peachy. I will say that I have felt more grace and peace and joy within myself and my home by taking the time to delve into the word, and to share it with others. It has brought a lot of fulfillment.
I am so happy for those of you who have stuck with it here. I know I can seem a little scatter-brained. I have 2 little ones, it comes with the territory. In all honesty, though, thank you for reading. It's really encouraging to log on and see that people are getting something out of this. You ladies are awesome in all of your unique ways! I know that whatever you take from this will only increase your life. Not because 'I'm such a great writer..' but because it's God's word and it's value never depreciates.
So... are you ready for the last verse?
It has flown by for me. It's been a really exciting journey. I have felt God through it, and it couldn't have come at a better time in my life. Here are a few things I have learned:
1. Don't be lazy- It will set an overall tone of frustration and sluggishness for my home.
2. Be Selfless- Continue to put others first and God will give me the rest that I need from it all.
3. Keep Writing- (personal) The more I write, as with anything, the easier it becomes. I think there's been a significant improvement.
4. Trust God. Honestly He's been telling me this for a long time. Every time I feel frustrated or upset because it feels like we (as a family) are not moving forward, God reverts back to this. Obviously it's really hard for me or we wouldn't still be working on it.. but here we are.
5. Spend time with God everyday- I won't say that since we started, everything has been just peachy. I will say that I have felt more grace and peace and joy within myself and my home by taking the time to delve into the word, and to share it with others. It has brought a lot of fulfillment.
I am so happy for those of you who have stuck with it here. I know I can seem a little scatter-brained. I have 2 little ones, it comes with the territory. In all honesty, though, thank you for reading. It's really encouraging to log on and see that people are getting something out of this. You ladies are awesome in all of your unique ways! I know that whatever you take from this will only increase your life. Not because 'I'm such a great writer..' but because it's God's word and it's value never depreciates.
So... are you ready for the last verse?
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Today, I want to pray this over each of you.
May everything you put your hands to, be it child rearing, selling goods, working outside the home, or assisting others, I pray God blesses it. May the work you do never go unnoticed by the LORD Almighty. I ask that he would always bring you the rest that you need and the strength in the meantime.
Help her to find her place in your Kingdom, show her the things in her life that will bring her satisfaction and success. And bless it abundantly. And Please, God, continue to strengthen these families. May these women be pillars in the homes, Queens in your Kingdom and a vessel for your wisdom. Amen.
Sad to see a journey end, but also exciting. I don't know what comes next, but I do know he's got great things for each of us.
Whatever it is, I know now that we are Proverbs 31 Women.
And we know what that actually means :)
With all my love and anticipation for the future-
Lindsay
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 20
My numbering has been off a little. Week 1 I counted our day off as day 7, Week 2 I picked up where we left off, and then I intended on counting Sunday as day 18, but then titled yesterday as day 18... I need to get it together here. So I could go in and count last sunday as day (13/ 14..) and today would be our last day. But I'm not. I want to break the last 2 verses into 2 days, so that's what I'm going to do. I did change yesterday's title to Day 19, so no, you are not going nuts!
As a reminder, this is all part of my journey and development as a writer. I never claimed I would be perfectly organized, so bear with me, please.
As a reminder, this is all part of my journey and development as a writer. I never claimed I would be perfectly organized, so bear with me, please.
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Because this is near the end of the passage, I feel that Lemuel's mother is trying to sum up these lessons for her son. She's going back into what she initially said,
3 Do not spend your strength[a] on women,
your vigor on those who ruin kings.
your vigor on those who ruin kings.
When I think of a woman obsessed with her beauty, or eloquently charming, I see a very selfish person.
Selfish people can be really draining. Everything they talk about requires you putting your full attention on them. They ask your advice, but then throw it out the window when it doesn't suit them. Imagine a young ruler falling in love with a woman like that. It would be completely destructive, not only to his life, but to the entire kingdom he was in charge of.
When we get around selfish people, we start acting that way, too. It starts off wanting to fit in or relate to them, but soon it turns into a survival tactic. "If I'm not receiving love from this person, I'm going to have to love myself." Pretty soon, it's an explosive environment. Anything you say or do, can and will be used against you. How can you possibly have the best interest of someone else in mind, while living in that emotional place?
The Kings of our households deserve to govern with wisdom and compassion. There are children that need loving instruction. There are finances that need to be handled with integrity. There are tasks outside of the home that he needs to have the confidence to execute.
We have to stop trying to persuade our husbands with our beauty and our words. It only works for a season and then things come crashing down.
"A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Another word for "fear" is "revere."
"A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Another word for "fear" is "revere."
Reverence can be an outward expression of our respect.
Why are these two thoughts coupled together, here? I think she is trying to say, "don't be a woman that tries to change her husband by manipulating him with charm, or by seducing him with your beauty. Be a woman that has reverence for God's position in his life." We seriously overstep boundaries when we try to do God's job. It is the thing that has wounded the church for so many years; When we set rules and standards, and impress them upon people, without letting the Spirit convict. We, as wives, have a responsibility to step back and trust God to work things out in these men.
He is exceedingly capable and will do it. If you have a hard time believing that, check this out:
So bite your tongue and take it up with God. Pray for your Husband. And listen to God, because I cannot count how many times I take an issue I'm having with another person (not just Allen, but yes, sometimes) and He will immediately show me something that I am doing to add fuel to the fire. A lot of times He will tell me I have it completely wrong all-together.
Building our Kingdom, not tearing it down-
Lindsay
Monday, February 27, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 19
Hey P31 Ladies! Are you starting to feel any changes in your habits or thought patterns?
Just curious. I have.
I feel like God is really asking me to live what I'm learning. I made breakfast yesterday even though I didn't really feel like it. It honestly set a good tone for my day. It was Sunday and, yes, we should have gone to church. We didn't though because we thought we were going to meet up with some out-of-town family for lunch. Even though that didn't happen, I think we just needed some down time as a family. My parents were out of town for the weekend, so it was nice to sort of re-group.
Our passage today is one that represents a daily goal of mine-
Just curious. I have.
I feel like God is really asking me to live what I'm learning. I made breakfast yesterday even though I didn't really feel like it. It honestly set a good tone for my day. It was Sunday and, yes, we should have gone to church. We didn't though because we thought we were going to meet up with some out-of-town family for lunch. Even though that didn't happen, I think we just needed some down time as a family. My parents were out of town for the weekend, so it was nice to sort of re-group.
Our passage today is one that represents a daily goal of mine-
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
What we wouldn't do to get a reaction from the people in our lives. You know, it must be instinctive as women for us to desire these words of affirmation. If it weren't, I'm sure that we would never dig for compliments. You don't do that? really? (Did you like the lasagna tonight, sweetie? How did you like your lunch today?) Uh huh.. sure you don't.
The things people say to us really land a spot in our long term memory sometimes. It's the very reason we all remember high school so vividly. The first heart break. Even some of the first reprimands I received as a child (like a teacher expressing frustration with my 5-year old, left-handed self trying to use scissors.) We take it to heart.
I don't suggest indoctrinating yourself to the point you become superstitious about this, but words matter.
Proverbs 18:21
James 3
My challenge to you today is simple- Don't act our desperation to get a compliment. Sometimes we're even willing to put ourselves down just to have someone pat us on the back. Sometimes we can exaggerate our feelings (physical or emotional) for the sake of a reaction. It's scary when you catch yourself doing it!
You are created in His image, even if the person you love doesn't have the concept of "taming the tongue" down, I want you to know that God himself has spoken life over you. Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self Control all became part of your identity the moment that the Holy Spirit moved into your heart (Fruit of the Spirit.) You do not need to beg for approval from anyone because the result will only be superficial.
This passage says "her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also..." First thing in the morning they get up thinking about their love for this woman, not because she asks them to, but because everyday she is presenting herself as an overall loving, compassionate, selfless person. People like that are easy to love. Instead of us focusing on this as a result, let's decide to be women that people love to love.
I'm an asset, not an obligation-
Lindsay
The things people say to us really land a spot in our long term memory sometimes. It's the very reason we all remember high school so vividly. The first heart break. Even some of the first reprimands I received as a child (like a teacher expressing frustration with my 5-year old, left-handed self trying to use scissors.) We take it to heart.
I don't suggest indoctrinating yourself to the point you become superstitious about this, but words matter.
Proverbs 18:21
James 3
My challenge to you today is simple- Don't act our desperation to get a compliment. Sometimes we're even willing to put ourselves down just to have someone pat us on the back. Sometimes we can exaggerate our feelings (physical or emotional) for the sake of a reaction. It's scary when you catch yourself doing it!
You are created in His image, even if the person you love doesn't have the concept of "taming the tongue" down, I want you to know that God himself has spoken life over you. Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self Control all became part of your identity the moment that the Holy Spirit moved into your heart (Fruit of the Spirit.) You do not need to beg for approval from anyone because the result will only be superficial.
This passage says "her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also..." First thing in the morning they get up thinking about their love for this woman, not because she asks them to, but because everyday she is presenting herself as an overall loving, compassionate, selfless person. People like that are easy to love. Instead of us focusing on this as a result, let's decide to be women that people love to love.
I'm an asset, not an obligation-
Lindsay
Friday, February 24, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 17
I am so loving this. God really does intend for us to put all this good knowledge to use, you know? Probably one of the funniest things I've ever heard a leader say is when he told a close friend of mine, "you're spiritually obese." I am literally laughing now, and I hope she is too if she's reading. It's really true for so many of us that have been under any kind of teaching of the word for a long time. We bounce around from teachings on TV to self help books and then get our weekly buffet at church. Before you know it, you are stuffed with all this information and you're so busy looking for the next fix that you're not even going out and finding a place to apply it all.
It's the problem that happens to those people we all know (I was one of them) that think they have to spend every waking hour at the church. Even if you're a paid-staff pastor, you have to find time to see the world for what it really is. Lately Allen has been mentioning the way people at work talk about certain things and I'm totally blown away! I'm almost embarrassed that here I am saying I want to reach out to people and yet moral standards for the world are still the same as they were 6 years ago in my mind. In the world, not of it would be my point here. This actually does tie in with what we're talking about today.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Like any good mother, I get the sense that this one's got eyes on the back of her head. It's the only way to get anything done and still make sure your children aren't going to dive off a table or catapult the baby across the room.
I really want to zoom in on the second half of this passage, and I will talk more about why in a moment.
The bread of Idleness. What does that say to you?
For me it means 2 things-
Heavy but empty type foods that cause idleness, and
Food that you eat because you'd rather eat than work.
A big mistake I make as a mommy is not eating. I usually don't prepare a full meal for lunch because Ira is generally happy with leftovers or something small like soup, PB&J, crackers and an orange or sometimes a few slices of lunch meat. But eventually I hit that point in the day where I really just want to eat. And then I can't stop. I grab something simple like chips or a granola bar because it's easy and before I know it, I'm watching TV and looking for something else on commercial breaks.
Throughout my study of these passages, I have noticed a recurring theme of selflessness, organization and wisdom. I can apply all 3 of those ideas to my eating habits.
- Eat just enough to satisfy, don't overfill (that's also called Gluttony, which is associated with greed.)
- Plan plan plan. I should always have food that is accessible and realistic for me and my family.
- Eat smarter. I know I can't have a bowl of cereal in the morning. I will drag all day if I do. Recognizing that what I put in is what I'm going to get out of my day makes a difference in the way I make choices. If I put in lazy unhealthy food, I'm going to feel that way all day.
We are nearing the end of our challenge and the end of the month, so I have been thinking about what's next. I would like to set up a health and fitness initiative (Any ideas for a name?) for the month of March!! I'm sure we're all losing sight of those New Year's Resolutions so it's a good time to reset and remember "HEY! We're almost 1/4 way through the year!" I'm going to be looking into scriptures and advice from all over to get a good grasp of what we need to do. What's realist. What's the balance with a busy life?
It's time to stop playing victim to a flawed system and make decisions about the direction we want our lives to go. To live healthier is a HUGE one for me. So lets do this!!
Step away from the cookies!
Lindsay
Thursday, February 23, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 16
Hey everyone! I just want to encourage you to push yourself these last few days. Sometimes it seems that right when we get close to making a positive change in our lives, those little habits creep back in and fight to the finish. I can say this is true for me right now. I have been adamant about my commitment to these posts, and yet in the last few days it has been a real fight to stick with it. Let's not give in. Let's give more. More to ourselves, more to our families and more to our sweet creator.
I absolutely LOVE today's passage. It does the thing to me that most of the proverbs do. First I feel happy because I think I qualify, through salvation, to be classified as that person. Then I have a huge reality check and feel like there's some work to do.
I absolutely LOVE today's passage. It does the thing to me that most of the proverbs do. First I feel happy because I think I qualify, through salvation, to be classified as that person. Then I have a huge reality check and feel like there's some work to do.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
How often do we just talk straight out of opinion or feeling, without actual knowledge of God's view?
I've touched on this in the beginning of our study, but we really do have a tendency to have conversations about, say, politics. We will go on and on about our views and what we think is right for "society," and "future generations." Some of that comes from what we know of God's word, morally. But usually the more popular views are those that make us feel good.
There is a difference between wisdom and knowledge.
This is what Wiki says about wisdom-
"Wisdom is a deep understanding and realization of people, things, events or situations, resulting in the ability to apply perceptions, judgements and actions in keeping with this understanding. It often requires control of one's emotional reactions (the "passions") so that universal principles, reason and knowledge prevail to determine one's actions. Wisdom is also the comprehension of what is true or right coupled with optimum judgment as to action..."
And here is what is says about knowledge-
"Knowledge is a familiarity with someone or something, which can include information, facts, descriptions, or skills acquired through experience oreducation. It can refer to the theoretical or practical understanding of a subject. It can be implicit (as with practical skill or expertise) or explicit (as with the theoretical understanding of a subject); and it can be more or less formal or systematic."
Knowledge is based on fact. Even someone who does not know God can read the Bible and feel educated about it.
Wisdom, however, is acquired through overall observations about situations and outcomes.
I love that the definition even emphasizes that wisdom "often requires control of one's emotional reactions." This is so important. We never make wise choices when we are being led purely by emotion. It's what leads people into additions of any kind from attention to spending to drugs to pornography. Emotions are great when we can use them to relate to others or identify them to understand a need in our own lives. But they can be totally destructive if we are not the ones in control of them, and yes, you do have the ability. fruit of the Spirit
Faithful instruction is on her tongue.
Let's look at this culturally. This woman runs a business, runs a household, she has servants working for her, she meets the needs of her husband and I'm going to branch out and say that she is also responsible for the education of her children. At least until the boys reach the age where they begin being trained in Jewish law. The girls, though, likely stayed under her instruction until they married.
That is a big responsibility to take on- Managing people and teaching children.
It would be preposterous to think that she could just "wing it." The only way to be able to lead others is to first be led by God. We are so fortunate to live after Christ's death and resurrection. That means that we get to consult, not just wisdom, but the Spirit that is living within us. That's pretty amazing. And it really takes the pressure off.
I'm speaking to home school moms right now! Don't you dare get overwhelmed by your responsibility to teach. Get on your knees, lady! (Physically or metaphorically..)
Honestly, I won't hold back on this one. Everyday that I have logged on here to write, I read the passage and think "what am I going to say about that..??!" and then God just leads me. I can't explain it, except that he does. On that note, I hope that this is more than just rambling to you. I hope each of you are taking something, anything from this! He will show up. He will fascinate you. He will surprise you.
It's perfectly reasonable to be organized. It's even better to go in with a plan.
And as a side note, I don't claim to be perfect at this, but, we as parents need to watch the way we speak to our kids. It doesn't matter if you're frustrated or tired. When we show our children that we are emotionally swayed by their actions, we are teaching them that our love for them is conditional. We also set ourselves up for failure once they figure out how to play us, which starts sooner than we'd all like to think. Even if you have to fake it, treat your kids with dignity, respect and love all the time. They deserve an emotionally safe environment.
I have heard it said that we have 2 ears and only one mouth, so we should listen twice as much as we speak. I think we, as Christians have another way to listen that's not so audible. When we decide to open ourselves to His instruction, we will have a really hard time misguiding others.
I'm going to stop talking now-
Lindsay
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 15
God never lets me get too big for my britches. I fully intended on writing last night, and then the deep fried orange chicken got the best of me (and by that I mean it made me sick, not seduced me.) I laid down to nurse the baby to sleep and.. well... here I am. I should have known. I should have known.
I have been looking forward to today's passage since we started. I didn't know what I was going to say about it, I just knew I liked it.
I have been looking forward to today's passage since we started. I didn't know what I was going to say about it, I just knew I liked it.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
We have already talked about her clothing a little, but I would like to reiterate that for her, it's not about the clothes themselves. She is dressed in "fine linen and purple," which means she really does give thought to what she puts on herself and works hard enough to allow the absolute best for her and her family. Here, however, we see that she is now clothed with "strength and dignity." It's what people see when they look at her. She's a strong woman. She's a dignified woman.
I like google's definition of dignified here- "Having or showing a composed or serious manner that is worthy of respect."
And then the second part of the verse makes sure we see her in full character. Laughing freely at the days to come.
Can you honestly laugh at the days to come?
Something that has become all too prevalent in today's culture is to say, "someday I'm going to..[insert change a habit or circumstance here]." When I was younger it was always "when I'm rich and skinny I can do.. blah blah blah." Well.. I'm not going to ever become rich or skinny by waiting on that day to actually enjoy my life. I may, in fact never be rich or skinny!
The proverbial woman described in this verse is someone I really look up to because I know she is confident in her foundations. She is making wise business decisions, taking care of her family, making sure her hubby can do his job effectively, and taking time to care for herself. It's not a day to day monotony, it's a lifestyle that insures security for her and her family for years to come. Her children will know the best example possible, she will get to see the fruit of all that she does in her grandchildren.
But she does it all today. Not next week when business slows a little (because we all know, it never slows down. That's just an excuse.) Not when her kids are older. Not when her husband is able to be home more. Today. Without procrastination.
Training yourself to stop making and believing your own excuses is crucial to your progression in life. It might mean feeling totally intimidated by today, but you will be all the better for it tomorrow.
Embracing today's imperfections-
Lindsay
Monday, February 20, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 14
Hey Ladies! Hope you have all enjoyed your weekend and the extra day off/ with the hubby if you had it. I didn't, but thankfully Allen is only gone for a little over 6 hours a day, so we get to enjoy a lot of time together.
If you're a little backed up, don't worry! Remember that these are being written so that you can take it at your own pace. That said, we are diving into our third and final week. That means all that we've absorbed so far will stop looking like little pieces and begin to paint a complete picture in our minds. I am really excited about that.
Here we go!
If you're a little backed up, don't worry! Remember that these are being written so that you can take it at your own pace. That said, we are diving into our third and final week. That means all that we've absorbed so far will stop looking like little pieces and begin to paint a complete picture in our minds. I am really excited about that.
Here we go!
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
Remember the other day when I said I didn't know what exactly her business was? Now I do. And just to be clear, linen and wool are two different things, so this means she makes stuff for home and then she makes stuff to sell. Busy lady!
She's got something that people are willing to buy. Not only is she able to interest people in her garments, but she has even found something that the other merchants want from her. What does this say to you?
Creativity.
Creativity comes pretty easily to some people. It depends on what your strengths are usually, but if you're a people oriented person, you might be creative with words (like me, I like to write and I would love to get into marketing, too.) Perhaps you're someone who internalizes a lot of things and you use a form of art to express it. Maybe you get creative in the kitchen (and maybe it doesn't always turn out well.. case and point: soy sauce steaks.)
But there comes a point for all of us when our creative juices just aren't flowing so freely. Sometimes it happens when we have an immediate need or challenge and the solution isn't obvious or enjoyable. It's in those moments that it is totally ok to ask God for creativity! He is Sovereign in all areas, so please believe He can and will send some ideas your way. He's so great in that way, you know? He never changes and yet he's always current.
A big area where I've really had to ask for fresh eyes is in my clothes. A few years back when I first got involved in ministry, my leaders came to me and said, "some women are complaining that you aren't dressing appropriately enough and they don't want it to be a problem for their husbands."
Flabbergasted and embarrassed, I didn't know what to do! I certainly was not trying to dress in a way that would cause problems for someone else's marriage. Yet, I had to hear what people were saying and reevaluate. It was a long hard process, starting out by wearing the same black skirt and long, loose jacket every week. Gradually, though, I was able to see things differently, like a man might see it (only by asking my husband, of course.) By the time it I was ready to leave that ministry, I was comfortable wearing jeans dressed up with heels and a blazer/ cardigan. But it did take some work. Letting go of clothes I felt comfortable in, and changing those little things for the sake of others.
I can't say I have it all down even now, but I do know that when I look in the mirror today, I see something different than what I did 5 years ago. I look in my closet and think about interesting combinations. I try to pull it all together, and make it work while looking totally appropriate for my age and my body and also out of respect for my husband. Not out of a legalistic motive, but one of love, I seek approval from him before I buy something. I want to know that he's comfortable with how I'm dressing, too.
This is just one example of an area where God has given me creativity. Hopefully, if there's an area you feel needs some improvement, He can bring new ideas to life for you too.
Renewed Every Morning-
Lindsay
Saturday, February 18, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 13
It's 5 minutes until midnight, so I actually think I failed today. Thankfully tomorrow is our day off so I can catch up a little. Busy week ahead! Hubby's b-day is Wednesday so we're planning to do a few things in celebration on top of my other responsibilities, which now include sewing lessons. I have always wished I knew how to sew and things just kinda fell into place when I met someone willing to teach me.
It is a little ironic that I'm just now learning to sew while we're doing this lesson. Maybe God is just insisting that I literally apply the things I'm learning.
Well, lucky for us, the attention shifts to someone else today. The husband.
It is a little ironic that I'm just now learning to sew while we're doing this lesson. Maybe God is just insisting that I literally apply the things I'm learning.
Well, lucky for us, the attention shifts to someone else today. The husband.
23Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
Why, in the middle of all these passages about a woman's character, are we drawing attention to her husband's reputation? Because, again, this is written as instruction for a young man. It serves as a reminder to the reader that, to have a wife that is this exceptional, he too must be somebody respectable.
So, as women, what can we take away from this?
Definitely not that we need to go throw this scripture in his face and tell him to be bit better of a person...
What this speaks to is unity. Unity in the home, between a man and his wife.
Sometimes I get a little head strong. I told Allen a couple nights ago, "you met your match with me, and you just need to accept that." If you know anything about my husband it's that he does not sugar- coat anything. He will totally blurt out exactly what he's thinking, and the most maddening part about it is that he's usually right! The beauty (and sometimes the most painful part) of our marriage is that we bring balance to each other. In the areas I lack common sense, I have my living, breathing reality check. And when Allen fails to see the softer side of things, I'm usually there to interpret what people are feeling or reacting to.
He is who he is. I am who I am. And it makes us who we are as a couple.
The trouble comes when the lines blur. When I decide I want to be bold and obnoxious just to prove a point, or when he chooses to ignore all that he knows simply because it feels good.
What we've read so far, in a nut shell, says, "she gets her work done, and he does his." They support each other in their own ways. Because she handles the home, the children, the cooking, the clothing, the finances- he is able to go, confidently, and contribute. Because he goes and accomplishes things in his community at a high level, he is able to support his family and also govern the home with wisdom.
Our challenge today is to simply acknowledge and appreciate the characteristics in your spouse that bring harmony to your life.
Thankful for the know-it-all
Lindsay
Friday, February 17, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 12
Hey everyone! I'm so glad I have a moment in the middle of this beautiful day to sit and write. Ira and Asher have decided to nap at the same time, and I must say, the house is peaceful right now. I have the blinds open with the sun shining into our blue and grey room and Allen just left for work. I love these moments, especially on Friday when I know everyone will be home the next two days. It is so nice to have a quiet moment to myself.
Our passage today makes me feel girly:
My overall point in all of this is that we need to not feel ashamed for our instinctive nature as women.
9 I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10 but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. I Timothy 2:9-10
Even in this passage the Word is not instructing us to not feel pretty, or to not care about our appearance. This is saying "don't make that your identity." Be known for having a charitable heart and being an overall pleasant person to be around. Of course, we don't want to be vain or flashy! But in avoiding that persona, let's not make excuses to be lazy.
The people around us deserve our best. My kids deserve to grow up in a clean home. When I have daughters, they deserve to have me as an example of a woman who embraces her beauty. My husband deserves to come home to the beautiful woman he married almost 6 years ago. So instead of focusing on being a rule-follower, let's focus on being good listeners. Listen to what Christ is really speaking through His word. Dressing like a man means something a whole lot different in our society, and if we are going to reach the world for Christ, we are going to have to relate to it.
And if you need a little more convincing (and another reference)
Our bodies are a Temple of the Holy Spirit. Think about how specific God's instructions were concerning the Ark of the Covenant in the Old Testament Exodus 25-26. Think, also, about the grand churches we build today. It's totally ok to look nice!
Just for the sake of one more link!
Lindsay
Our passage today makes me feel girly:
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
There you go. Go show your hubby that you need new clothes, because the Bible says it's ok!
I remember watching John Hagee once (I know.. I'm old school..) and he was talking about his wife and her need for decorative pillows on their bed and all the other things us women like to decorate with. Rugs, throws, curtains, candles. We love it all. He jokingly said, "are we going to be giving tours through our bedroom?!" I always thought that was HILARIOUS, because.. that's what I'm married to.
Utilitarian is the word I use to describe Allen's taste in home decor. He'd be happy to have bare walls, bare couches, bright lighting and neutral colors through most of the house. I have tried to shake things up a little lately and he finally budged. We bought rugs in December with some Christmas cash, but deep down it was probably for the sake conserving heat in our room more than anything.
That's just the way women are. We care about what our home looks like. I don't only want to have a clean house, I want a pretty house.
I don't just want clothes that fit. I want clothes that look nice. I want my kids to look nice, too.
The men in our lives may joke and tell us we're just being ridiculous by wanting to spend money on these things that don't really matter; but honestly, I know Allen doesn't mind coming home to a house that looks put together and a wife that took a little time to put an outfit together and brush her hair.
In 8th grade, my parents were in a place where they didn't want me in public school and they weren't sure they could really be home enough to home school me, so I went to a Christian school nearby. It was through a Baptist church and OMG! I had never been in such a rule-happy environment in my life.
Don't paint your nails, don't wear pants, don't do your hair, don't wear high heels, don't wear makeup, don't color you hair, do not pass go, do not collect $200. Is this supposed to represent Jesus or jail time? I can't tell the difference.
There's a scripture in the Old Testament that a lot of this is derived from-
It comes out of verse 5, but I shared the entire passage for context. When I looks for a title to this section of scripture it fell under "Various Laws." Hmmm..? I don't think those apply to me.
And then there's Timothy-
I am not getting into all of that! I have tried for years to grasp where this comes from, because, to me it just doesn't tie in with who God has shown me that He is. Don't misinterpret that. I am not saying it's not inspired, I'm merely pointing out that I do not feel educated enough to teach on it yet. I will say though, nowhere in the Bible can I find a stance for women not wearing pants (umm... what about women's pants?) or makeup. In fact, in the book of Esther, the eligible women in pursuit of the throne underwent 6 months of beauty treatments!
Esther 2:12. So there.
My overall point in all of this is that we need to not feel ashamed for our instinctive nature as women.
Even in this passage the Word is not instructing us to not feel pretty, or to not care about our appearance. This is saying "don't make that your identity." Be known for having a charitable heart and being an overall pleasant person to be around. Of course, we don't want to be vain or flashy! But in avoiding that persona, let's not make excuses to be lazy.
The people around us deserve our best. My kids deserve to grow up in a clean home. When I have daughters, they deserve to have me as an example of a woman who embraces her beauty. My husband deserves to come home to the beautiful woman he married almost 6 years ago. So instead of focusing on being a rule-follower, let's focus on being good listeners. Listen to what Christ is really speaking through His word. Dressing like a man means something a whole lot different in our society, and if we are going to reach the world for Christ, we are going to have to relate to it.
And if you need a little more convincing (and another reference)
Our bodies are a Temple of the Holy Spirit. Think about how specific God's instructions were concerning the Ark of the Covenant in the Old Testament Exodus 25-26. Think, also, about the grand churches we build today. It's totally ok to look nice!
Just for the sake of one more link!
Lindsay
Thursday, February 16, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 11
Has anyone decided to be one day behind me? I was thinking it might not be a bad idea. My life is occasionally crazy, so you may have noticed, I post at pretty random times. If you are like me and stay up late for your down time, it probably doesn't bother you, but if you're into some sort of routine...? Just a thought.
I've actually really been looking forward to these passages! There was even a part of me yesterday that wished I could skip over verse 19 and jump into these 2 verses. I'm glad that wasn't an option, though. I feel like God showed me some stuff last night I wasn't expecting.
Today we're doing 2 verses to make sure we don't get behind by taking Sundays off.
I've actually really been looking forward to these passages! There was even a part of me yesterday that wished I could skip over verse 19 and jump into these 2 verses. I'm glad that wasn't an option, though. I feel like God showed me some stuff last night I wasn't expecting.
Today we're doing 2 verses to make sure we don't get behind by taking Sundays off.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
Sometimes when I'm doing little house projects like making a pretty menu or thinking about making a scrapbook, I wonder if it's completely selfish to spend my time and money on these little things when there are people who don't even have a place to call home.
I consider myself a conservative like most Christians do. That being said, I do not agree with the attitude that impoverished people put themselves in that situation and deserve the that lifestyle until they get up, get a job and contribute. I can see why people think that. At the same time, I disagree with helping the needy being the government's job.
I believe that, scripturally, Christ has a heart for the poor. As the physical representation of Christ on Earth, we should have compassion toward the poor as well.
Reading this brings me some peace of mind because I see that the Proverbs 31 Woman cares for those less fortunate while making no apologies for her financial success and stability.
It's a concept that a lot of "prosperity" teachers manipulate to make Christians feel inadequate, but truthfully, we cannot be help others without the means of helping them. Sometimes that comes from understanding God's word and sharing the hope of Christ. To someone in need of basic things like food and shelter, however, having the financial ability to help is probably more relevant.
When it comes to her family, the Proverbs 31 Woman has no problem clothing her family with the very best. There is no double standard here. By caring for her family, she is showing others what they have the potential to be by living a disciplined lifestyle. I don't know a better way to show someone hope than to let them see what God has done in your life. It's not about being flashy, it's about being real with people.
I know one day I will be able to tell someone, we were living on very little and had to give up our house to push forward, but God took all of our short-comings and turned them into something beautiful. Just that thought stirs up so much gratitude, don't you think?
Thankful for Provision-
Lindsay
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
P31 Challenge: Day 10
10 days! that's a nice round number. That means that we are about half way through week 2, and I must say it's flying by!
Today Ira had a play date, and Mommy got a little social interaction out of it. It was nice to reach out a little and be somebody to talk to for someone who needed it.
I am so grateful for God's word and the freedom He brings through it. Sometimes we try to compartmentalize our Spirituality as just one part of our lives. Peace in life comes, though, when we apply God's reasoning to all areas.
I hope this study is helping. It sure is helping me.
I'm honestly super tired today! (Just being candid here.) Why don't we get down to it, yes?
5 lest they drink and forget what has been decreed, and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.
These are teachings directed at a young man, soon to become King. Teachings concerning what type of woman is fit to be a Queen, perhaps.
Any woman can cook or clean or take care of children, but these passages relate to a type of character that distinguishes her. This reference in verse 19 is not exception. She doesn't need to buy things from other vendors, she can make her own. That's her way of shining a little brighter than the average woman.
Here we see that we, who are in Christ, are Heirs. Heirs to the kingdom of God! That means Royalty!
Romans 8:17
Today's challenge is to do something above average. Maybe that's making an entire meal from scratch. Maybe treating your Hubby like a king. You know what you're capable of that you've consistently chosen not to do. Today- do it.
Princesses are entitled. Queens earn their place.
Lindsay
Today Ira had a play date, and Mommy got a little social interaction out of it. It was nice to reach out a little and be somebody to talk to for someone who needed it.
I am so grateful for God's word and the freedom He brings through it. Sometimes we try to compartmentalize our Spirituality as just one part of our lives. Peace in life comes, though, when we apply God's reasoning to all areas.
I hope this study is helping. It sure is helping me.
I'm honestly super tired today! (Just being candid here.) Why don't we get down to it, yes?
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
I just had to google that. Don't judge me.
All you really need to know is that it relates to spinning wool.
So we already know she's a business woman. She makes a profit from her work. She works long hours to juggle it all. Now we learn that she makes her own stuff. We are going to go into this more in the next couple of days, but when I read this my immediate thought was "she's confident in her abilities."
I don't know what her business is, but I think it's important to recognize that she is weaving/ sewing/ knitting things for her family. (You can read ahead a little, it relates.) proverbs 31
It seems to me that she is not concerned with simply trading her merchandise for someone else's, but rather supplying her family and community with necessities. I want to go back to the beginning of the chapter and draw attention to something.
Check this out-
3 Do not spend your strength[a] on women,
your vigor on those who ruin kings.
4 It is not for kings, Lemuel— not for rulers to crave beer,
it is not for kings to drink wine,
5 lest they drink and forget what has been decreed, and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.
These are teachings directed at a young man, soon to become King. Teachings concerning what type of woman is fit to be a Queen, perhaps.
Any woman can cook or clean or take care of children, but these passages relate to a type of character that distinguishes her. This reference in verse 19 is not exception. She doesn't need to buy things from other vendors, she can make her own. That's her way of shining a little brighter than the average woman.
Here we see that we, who are in Christ, are Heirs. Heirs to the kingdom of God! That means Royalty!
Romans 8:17
Today's challenge is to do something above average. Maybe that's making an entire meal from scratch. Maybe treating your Hubby like a king. You know what you're capable of that you've consistently chosen not to do. Today- do it.
Princesses are entitled. Queens earn their place.
Lindsay
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